What do you do when your friends, family, or co-workers come to you in tears and full of despair because they’re having such a difficult time at work? The place where they spend the majority of their life is causing them so much strife and they don’t know what to do. Their confidence has been stripped away, they feel worthless, they’re hopeless, and quitting the job isn’t even an option for them. They feel trapped.
What do you tell that friend, family member, or co-worker when they share with you that they love the company they work for, but not the boss they work for?
What do you tell them to comfort and give them reassurance that they will get through this rough patch in their job (and life)?
How do you support someone who has gone from hating their job to actually starting to hate themselves for enduring the job?
I’ve often found myself on the supportive end of work-place suffering situations.
Always reminding my family, friends, and co-workers that they would survive and eventually do better and be better. Sometimes people were going through the regular job stress, but other times people were enduring situations that I absolutely know (now) should’ve been taken to court.
I was always hopeful for them – hopeful that my words of sympathy and encouragement would help them survive until their situation changed. One day, though, the tables turned. I was usurped from my supporter position and banished to a position of suffering I had never experienced since working at the age of 11. Sympathy soon turned into empathy and I was fully engulfed in all the pains of sadness, anxiety, depression, hopelessness that I had helped pull my family, friends, and co-workers from.
I knew that I couldn’t exist, live, or thrive in life feeling the way I did. I had to solve the problem in the quickest and best way possible. I had to change my mindset.
It took a few weeks, but I eventually figured it out and regained my position on my throne of supporter once again. I’m grateful that the banishment was a temporary one (as is everything).
Moving out of suffering and back into supporting (myself and others) made me extremely happy and confident. The old Kandis was back!
What I did to become the champion in the most horrible job experience I ever had and how it worked for me became “Gratitude @ Work! 7 Steps to Make Your Job Work For You!”
It’s my contribution to the many conversations being had all around the world. The kind that seem like a casual “Let me tell you why I hate my job” convo, but often turn into very emotional releases of negative energy that is really smothering many employees’ souls.
Workers spend too much of their lives at a job and they should not have to feel powerless and abused at work. Jobs should be challenging tools that help you build upon your talents, skills, and life goals. Jobs should not make you feel worthless and powerless.
So, be empowered. “Gratitude @ Work! 7 Steps to Make Your Job Work for You!” guided me back to my power. Even now as I work with the best boss I’ve ever had, I still use these steps to manage many areas of my life.
Like transferable skills, these are transferable steps that can empower you to create the work-life-dreams balance you desire.
Be confident. Be inspired. Know that YOU ARE AN ASSET to the world, not just your employer.
You carry immeasurable value just because you were born! (Millennials unite!)